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Could Having a Second Baby Save My Marriage?

admin — Sat, 05 Apr 2014 23:13:19 +0000

Your marriage is not what it used to be. You fight more than you make love these days. You seem to disagree on the most trivial things. After your first child was born, you act mostly as ‘parents’, not ‘lovers’. You love your child and although it’s a busy job, you enjoy being a mother. When looking at a newborn baby, your heart melts.

You feel sad thinking your child will grow up as an only child of likely-to-be-divorced parents… and your biological clock is ticking. From deep within your core you feel a desire for another child… You wonder if having another baby will shift the attention from your marital problems and bring out that lovable man you once fell in love with…

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/could-having-a-second-baby-save-my-marriage/

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How Can I Help My Son Feel at Home in His Dad’s House?

admin — Thu, 19 Dec 2013 05:34:13 +0000

Question: My ex and I are working together to set up a bedroom in his home for our son. We asked our son for input since it is his room. The problem is, he wants the same things in his room when he is home with his Dad that he has in his room when he is home with me. The problem is, a lot of the things he has in his bedroom here we are not able to duplicate. His lamp is one that my mother had as a child, his bed was my bed as a child. He wants us to wave a magic wand so he can have the same set-up in both homes.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/how-can-i-help-my-son-feel-at-home-in-his-dads-house/

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How To Respond to Your Kids’ Questions During Divorce

admin — Sun, 29 Jun 2014 04:36:54 +0000

When couples divorce, emotions run wild and minds are preoccupied with many questions. Where will I live? How will I manage my finances? Who will keep what? How will we parent our children? How will I be able to cope with this chaos? Etc. Sometimes, as a parent, you are not aware of the questions your children have on their minds. You may need so much energy to cope with the changes you are going through, both emotional and material, that you may forget to explain to your children what is going to change for them and how this might make them feel.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/how-to-respond-to-your-kids-questions-during-divorce/

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When Should I Tell Our Children We Are Divorcing?

admin — Wed, 30 Oct 2013 04:38:34 +0000

Question: My husband moved out of the house about three weeks ago. I have talked to him about telling the children that we are separated but he keeps avoiding facing having to do this. He travels a lot for work so there has been little change in our routine because the children are used to him not being around much. BUT there have been small changes and a few questions from them.

They are 3 and 5 and I feel they have a right to have their questions answered. Would it be wrong of me to tell them daddy and I are separated if he continues to avoid the conversation or should I wait until he can be here and we can both talk to them together?

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/when-should-i-tell-our-children-we-are-divorcing/

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Is Non-Physical ‘Cheating’ a Reason to Break up Your Marriage?

admin — Fri, 11 Oct 2019 00:47:55 +0000

The question “is cheating a reason for divorce” is highly personal. The answer depends on the state your marriage was in before the alleged ‘cheating’ occurred. An unstable marriage is more likely to reach a breaking point if infidelity is suspected.

Ultimately, the question can only be answered after you first take a closer look at what YOU define as ‘cheating’ and what YOU feel is acceptable or unacceptable in your marriage.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/is-nonphysical-cheating-a-reason-to-break-up-your-marriage-2/

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Do This One Thing And Your Divorce Won’t Harm Your Children

admin — Fri, 23 May 2014 01:02:36 +0000

As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I hear a lot of ways parents cause harm to their kids during divorce. There is no excuse; not putting the interest of the child first when making decisions is harmful. I hear co-parents fight about nail clippings, hair styles, school and church plays, bedtimes, eating habits, the way the new girl or boyfriend treats their child, and the worst thing of all…they negatively impact the child by talking bad about the other parent in front of their child.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/do-this-one-thing-and-your-divorce-wont-harm-your-children/

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7 Ways to Ward Off Those Dreadful “Second Marriage Statistics”

admin — Tue, 21 Jan 2014 02:11:01 +0000

Your divorce is final. Your common assets have been divided; a parenting plan is in place and both of you live in separate houses. The kids know when they will be with Mom and when with Dad. Slowly, everyone seems to be adjusting to the new situation. It seems like the dust is settling down. At first you thought you were done with men, but as time passes, strong emotions are fading and you decide to start dating again…

After numerous dates… some humorous, some awful, some a simple waste of time… there he is… Mr. right. You hit it off and you just KNOW that this time it will be different. This time it will LAST…

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/7-secrets-to-a-successful-second-marriage/

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How to Reduce Separation Anxiety During Co-Parent Visitation

admin — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 02:13:10 +0000

Question: My son who is 5 has severe separation anxiety when he is with his father for the weekend. He is a shy kid who has always taken a lot of comfort in being with his “family” and in his home. So, he is having a hard time adjusting to the idea of having two places to live now that we are divorced.

My ex adores him and tries his best to distract him with fun activities. My son’s anxiety while there has nothing to do with bad treatment so I will continue to send him off to his father’s for visitation. What I need are suggestions of things his father and I can do to help him adjust and relieve his level of anxiety.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/how-to-reduce-separation-anxiety-during-coparent-visitation/

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Preschoolers and Divorce: Are They Too Young to Understand Divorce?

admin — Sat, 28 Sep 2019 00:45:24 +0000

About 42 percent of all marriages in the United States end in divorce and in many cases young children are involved. Divorce is a stressful process and a time of change for all members of the family. Everything that once felt familiar and safe now feels unsafe and uncertain.

For adults, it means letting go of the dream to grow old together. It involves moving, splitting all assets and liabilities, adjusting to a new financial situation, getting used to being single again, changes in your social life, and dealing with all the emotions that accompany all these changes.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/preschoolers-and-divorce-are-they-too-young-to-understand/

Also featured on: https://www.positivemed.com/2014/03/03/preschool-children-divorce-young-understand/

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Infidelity: The Monster Is Out Of The Closet. Now What?

admin — Tue, 17 Feb 2015 01:42:28 +0000

As a mental health counselor in private practice, I often get confronted with the emotional aftermath of infidelity. The devastation is obvious when a betrayed partner walks into my office. Finding out your intimate partner has cheated feels like the floor has been swept from under your feet. Nothing seems the same anymore. Normal daily tasks become a heavy burden and the person is on survival mood. Finding out that the person you love has lied to you, kept secrets from you and shared intimacy with others hurts deeply. Trust is now non-existent and this all can lead to a depressed mood.

Complete article: https://divorcedmoms.com/infidelity-the-monster-is-out-of-the-closet-now-what/

Also featured on: https://www.positivemed.com/2015/05/15/infidelity-the-monster-is-out-of-the-closetnow-what/

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